Kungani amakati ethanda ukunwaya amabhodi

Uma ungumnikazi wekati, cishe uye waqaphela ukuthi umngane wakho onoboya unomkhuba wemvelo wokunwaya.Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlangothi lukasofa oyintandokazi yakho, imilenze yetafula lakho lokudlela, noma umata wakho omusha sha, amakati awakwazi ukumelana nesifiso sokuklwebheka.Nakuba lokhu kuziphatha kungase kubonakale kukhungathekisa futhi kulimaza kithina bantu, empeleni kufeza injongo ebaluleke kakhulu kubangane bethu bezilwane.Eqinisweni, lokhu kuziphatha okungokwemvelo kugxile ngokujulile emizweni yabo engokwemvelo futhi kunendima ebalulekile empilweni yabo yonke.

Enye yezindlela ezisebenza kahle kakhulu zokushintsha ukuziphatha kwekati lakho ukunwaya ukulinikeza okuthunyelwe okuklwebhayo.Kodwa ingabe wake wazibuza ukuthi kungani amakati ethanda ukunwaya okuthunyelwe kangaka?Ake singene sijule kulesi sihloko esithakazelisayo futhi sembule iqiniso lothando lwabo ngalezi zinsiza ezilula kodwa ezibalulekile.

Ukuze uqonde ukuthi kungani amakati akhangwa ukuklwebha okuthunyelwe, kubalulekile ukuqaphela kuqala izizathu zebhayoloji nezokuziphatha ngemuva komzwelo wawo ongokwemvelo wokuklwebheka.Amakati anesidingo esingokwemvelo sokwelula imisipha nemisipha, futhi ukunwaya kuwavumela ukuba enze lokhu.Kuyabasiza ukuthi bahlale benempilo ngokugcina imisipha, imisipha, namalunga egobeka futhi eqinile.Ukwengeza, ukunwaya kusiza amakati ukuthi alole izinzipho zawo, asuse imigodla yangaphandle yezinzipho zawo, futhi aphawule indawo yawo ngokushiya izimpawu ezibukwayo nephunga lendlala yomjuluko kumapaw pads awo.

Uma kukhulunywa ngokunwaya okuthunyelwe ngokuqondile, kunezici ezimbalwa ezibenza bangakwazi ukuvinjwa amakati.Ukuthungwa nokuqina kwempahla, kanye nokuma nosayizi webhodi, kudlala indima ebalulekile ekuheheni amakati kulezi zindawo eziklanyelwe ukuklwebheka.Izigxobo zokuklwebha ngokuvamile zenziwa ngezinto ezihlukahlukene, njengekhadibhodi likathayela, isilisa, noma ukhaphethi, futhi zilingisa ukuthungwa kwegxolo lesihlahla—amakati angaphezulu azinwaya ngokwemvelo endle.

Ukwengeza, idizayini eqondile yamaposi amaningi okunwaya ikati ivumela amakati ukuthi azelule ngokugcwele ngenkathi enwaya, ewanikeza indlela eyanelisayo nephumelelayo yokwelula nokusebenzisa imisipha yawo.Lokhu kunyakaza okuqondile nakho kufana kakhulu nokuziphatha kokunwaya isiqu somuthi, okuvumela amakati ukuba alingise ukuziphatha kwawo kwemvelo endaweni yawo yasekhaya.

Ngaphezu kwezinzuzo ezingokomzimba, okuthunyelwe kokuklwebha ikati nakho kungashukumisa ingqondo yekati lakho.Ngokuhlanganisa okuthunyelwe kokuklwebha endaweni yawo, amakati angakwazi ukukhulula umuzwa wawo wemvelo, ongasiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, nesithukuthezi.Lokhu-ke kuvimbela imihuzuko elimazayo efenisha nezinye izinto zasendlini, ekugcineni kwakheke indawo evumelanayo nenothisayo yamakati nabangane bawo abangabantu.

Ngaphezu kwalokho,ukunwaya ikati okuthunyelwefuthi ingaletha umuzwa wokulondeka nokunethezeka kumakati.Ngokuqoka indawo ezoklwebheka, amakati angakwazi ukusungula indawo yawo futhi adale indawo ejwayelekile, ephephile ngaphakathi kwendawo yawo yokuhlala.Lokhu akwanelisi nje isidingo sabo esingokwemvelo sokumaka indawo yabo, kodwa futhi kubahlinzeka ngendawo yokukhosela nokuphumula.

Ekugcineni, uthando lwamakati lokuklwebha okuthunyelwe lungabalelwa ezidingweni zawo ezizalwa nalo kanye nemizwelo engokwemvelo.Kusukela empilweni yomzimba nokuzilungisa kuya ekumaka endaweni kanye nokushukunyiswa kwengqondo, okuthunyelwe kokuklwebha ikati kudlala indima ebalulekile ekunikeni amandla ukuziphatha okungokwemvelo kwekati lakho kanye nokuthuthukisa impilo yalo yonke.Njengomnikazi wekati onomthwalo wemfanelo, ukuhlinzeka abangani bakho bezilwane ngezigxobo zekhwalithi ephezulu kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokudala indawo ebakhulisayo nebacebisayo.

Ngakho ngokuzayo lapho uthola ikati lakho linwaya ngomdlandla ebhodini eliyithandayo, thatha isikhashana ukuqonda incazelo ejulile yalesi senzo esibonakala silula.Akugcini nje ngokubalethela injabulo nokwaneliseka, kodwa futhi kunomthelela enhlalakahleni yabo engokomzimba nengokomzwelo—ukuphumelela kokubili kwezilwane nezilwane.